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Write a Kick-Ass Best Man Speech – 8 Easy Steps

Write a Best Man Speech in 8 Easy Steps

Hot damn! You’ve been asked to be your bro’s best man. What an amazing honor. While we are sure that you are excited, being the best man has tons of responsibilities including giving a speech. Yes, it is a tradition for the best man at a wedding to give a speech during the reception, so you’re probably not going to get out of this. Luckily, we have your back. We’re going to give you everything you need to write a best man speech in 9 easy steps.

It’s totally understandable if you’re feeling a bit nervous about giving a toast in front of a group of people, especially if you haven’t done it before. With these tips on how to write a best man’s speech, you’ll be wowing the crowd in no time.

Let’s dive in.

How To Write a Kick-Ass Best Man Speech

Don’t Wing It!

Hopefully, you are not reading this the night before the wedding, trying to figure out what you’re going to say. The last thing you want to do is rush through one of the most important things you will ever do for your beloved friend. The best man’s speech should be heartfelt so it’s going to take just a little effort. Rather than be sweating and weak in the knees on the wedding day plan ahead. We don’t want you to look like a fool.

Allow yourself plenty of time to write your best man speech, we recommend around 1 month. Start with brainstorming and writing down stories, memories, jokes, and quotes you might want to use. Think of memories from your experiences together that show what a great guy he is.

The goal of the best man speech is to celebrate the couple and present them in a good light.

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How to Write the Perfect Best Man Speech

Open With Showing Gratitude

One thing that a lot of best men and groomsmen that give speeches forget to do is to show gratitude. It doesn’ have to be a long part of your speech just something simple.

Start by thanking all the people that made this wedding day possible. Make certain to single out the parents of both the bride and groom (by name if possible) by offering a toast not only raising two wonderful people but putting on a glorious wedding.

Stay Sober

We know the urge will be strong to do shots and have several drinks throughout the day, and trust us we get it! Alcohol may provide liquid courage and make it easier to get up in front of a crowd of people, but being sloppy drunk will turn out bad.

As the best man at a wedding, you do not want to stumble over your words during your speech. Make sure to pace yourself while drinking throughout the day to avoid being too tipsy or even drunk at the time of the speech. If you overdo the booze not only will you embarrass the bride and groom but you will make an utter fool of yourself.

Avoid Controversial Topics

Sounds like common sense, right? Well, you would be surprised. The key to a great best man speech is to keep your speech on topics that are not embarrassing, offensive or controversial. Making a comment about the “ball and chain” or sharing a story that embarrasses the groom often comes out wrong and no one laughs. Talk about an awkward moment.

Instead of getting laughs at the expense of your friend and new spouse, talk about experiences you had or funny things that happened. But no matter what you do refrain from including past relationships, don’t diss the bride, don’t give flirty looks while saying “looking forward to the honeymoon”. All of these things are offensive and should be avoided unless of course, you want to be talked about forever as the ultimate D.B (douche bag for those that didn’t get the abbreviation).

Be Yourself

Ok, yes! You should be yourself when giving your best man speech. If you aren’t a stuffy, professional business type don’t try to be at the wedding reception. People, especially the groom love you for who you are, so don’t try to be someone else during your speech.

Of course, this does not mean you have carte blanche to diss people and be crass and rude. Remember there are parents, grandparents, and many business associates attending the wedding. The worst thing you can do for your best bro is to put on a show that is disgraceful or embarrassing.

If you have an over-the-top personality, you may want to tone it down “just a bit” and say your speech with some sense of class. You can get wild and crazy later when no one is listening.

Keep It Short

Let’s face it, speeches are the most dreaded part of any wedding for the guests and the people presenting the speeches. Why this tradition continues is beyond us. Yes, we agree it is nice for friends and family to hear all the lovely reasons why you are friends and the experiences you shared over the years.

Hey, dude. The truth is, you are not the only one tasked with giving a speech so keep yours short so they can say theirs and the party can get rolling

Avoid Inside Jokes

Do we really have to go into this? We hope not, but please…no inside jokes in your wedding speech. Trust us on this one.

End With A Quote

Sum up your speech with a meaningful quote. One that the couple can remember for life. Nothing too cheesy…here is a great one for inspiration.

“Marriage is not about finding a person you can live with, it’s about finding the person you can’t live without. My friend has found that person.”

Don’t Forget to Raise Your Glass & Propose a Toast

The main purpose of your best man speech is to celebrate the love and union of the bride and groom. So, make sure you don’t forget the most important part…at the end, raise your glass and propose a toast to the newlyweds.